Love Is Not Enough

If only...

Remember what it was like when you were first falling in love. I know I do. Even though it was more than 20 years ago I can still remember what it was like to just be with my (now) husband. Not only was it so easy, the cascade of hormones launched all the ‘feels’ of excitement, joy, and anticipation that bonded us together.  

While love may be enough in the beginning stages of a relationship to bring two people together, unfortunately it's not enough to keep you together, or at least not emotionally connected and fulfilled. 

It's very rare that someone walks into my office and says, I just don’t love him anymore. It usually goes more like, ‘I love him, BUT…’. 

So despite the strong bond you may have with your partner, your relationship will not be rich, fulfilling and deep without a secure attachment. 

Secure attachment gives you a sense of trust and safety in the relationship where you can be yourself along with the freedom to communicate your feelings and needs with an expectation that you will be seen, heard, and responded to. It’s a felt sense of being fully seen and fully accepted (warts and all). Many women I’ve worked with describe this as feeling like, “I can be myself” or “he gets me”. 

It’s like relaxing into a cozy hammock without fear of the ropes breaking or somehow being thrusted out. Isn’t this what we all want? The exact opposite to feeling anxious, worrying about your relationship somehow ending, or wondering if you are just too needy. 

While a successful relationship may begin with falling in love, creating and maintaining a fulfilling, satisfying relationship that stands the test of time and all of life’s challenges takes intention along with a thoughtful strategy or roadmap to get you there, and keep you there. 

I know first-hand that maintaining this kind of relationship is more than loving each other and have created a program based in the science of attachment, neurobiology, and relationships for women just like you, that care deeply about your relationships. 

Whether you are single or coupled up, this program can help you to cultivate the relationship you’ve always dreamed of. 

 If you want to learn more, feel free to reach out by clicking on the link and filling out the inquiry form . I would love to tell you more about Relationship Success Academy and see if this may be right for you!

In the meantime, I wish you much love!

Lisa