Ready For a Relationship? Answer These 3 Questions To Find Out

Are you sick of playing the dating game? Tired of navigating the minefields that Tinder and Bumble can be? Are you ready for a lasting relationship? 

Dating is fun, but what you’re really hoping for is that it will turn into a lasting partnership. Have you ever thought about how to get ready for a relationship? 

In this article, I’ll take you through the things you should be aware of before going into a long-term partnership so you’ll be ready for anything that comes your way. Consider the questions below. It helps if you, write these down and take some time to really reflect. Go ahead and grab your journal, pour yourself a cup of coffee, and cozy up. This simple but essential inner work will have you relationship-ready in no time.  

1) Do You Know Who YOU Are In a Relationship?

Remember, healthy interdependence begins with self-awareness. 

What specific needs do you have in a relationship? Put pen to paper and jot down some of your personal requirements, the non-negotiables that your relationship won’t be complete without.

What are your core values? Having a clear idea of your core values and principles. Try a value-card sort to prioritize what matters most to you.  

What are your relationship goals? You should know going in what you actually want out of the relationship. Try to get as specific as possible!

What is your love language? What makes you feel most loved? Is it physical touch, encouraging words? Or is it just your partner spending time with you?

Moving on to the next very important relationship-ready issue…

2) Do You Know Your Emotional Triggers?

A trigger is an unconscious, automatic reaction that occurs when you feel emotionally unsafe and it’s always related to the past. Most of your trigger reactions will look similar to one another and stem from the same core relational fear; fear of rejection, fear of abandonment, fear of being too much or not not enough. And guess what, we all have them.

To discover your specific emotional triggers think carefully about your significant relationships with your parents and past romantic partners and consider these questions:

• What memories from your childhood bring up strong emotions of fear or anger?

• What are some situations or behaviors a partner might exhibit that you know you have strong feelings about?

Some common examples of triggers in a relationship are, when he shows up late, when he doesn’t text you back right away, he forgets something that is important to you, he speaks to you in a certain tone or looks at you in a specific way.

Being aware of your triggers and doing the inner work to learn to self-regulate and deal effectively with these with a future partner is critical to developing and maintaining a long-term, happy relationship.

3) Is Your Self-Care On Point? 

Last but not least, you want to create a lifestyle that nurtures your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health.  

Start by establishing a healthy morning and nighttime routine. Try to move every day, whether that’s a morning jog, a half hour of yoga, a kickboxing class or just an afternoon stroll.

Taking care of yourself with daily intention is a way of loving yourself, building self-worth, and becoming the best version of you.

If you want to know more about how to get ready for your next relationship, feel free to reach out! Click this link to contact me.

Lots of love,

LA